Comments for TellTale Souls - The Story Woman http://telltalesouls.com/blog How to write memoir - Writing Mother Memoir - Keeping Spirits Alive Sat, 04 Feb 2012 23:32:31 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 Comment on COMMON SENSE Win Cash and Tap Memory Book by Alvin Willson http://telltalesouls.com/blog/tell-me-how-using-common-sense-makes-perfect-sense/comment-page-1/#comment-3377 Alvin Willson Sat, 04 Feb 2012 23:32:31 +0000 http://telltalesouls.com/blog/?p=1227#comment-3377 Unquestionably believe that that you stated. Your favorite justification seemed to be on the internet the easiest factor to be aware of. I say to you, I certainly get annoyed at the same time as people think about concerns that they just do not realize about. You managed to hit the nail upon the top and also defined out the whole thing without having side effect , people could take a signal. Will likely be again to get more. Thank you Unquestionably believe that that you stated. Your favorite justification seemed to be on the internet the easiest factor to be aware of. I say to you, I certainly get annoyed at the same time as people think about concerns that they just do not realize about. You managed to hit the nail upon the top and also defined out the whole thing without having side effect , people could take a signal. Will likely be again to get more. Thank you

]]> Comment on ON WRITING—INSPIRATION, INTENTION, FRUITION by admin http://telltalesouls.com/blog/on-writing%e2%80%94inspiration-intention-fruition/comment-page-1/#comment-3376 admin Fri, 03 Feb 2012 20:49:17 +0000 http://telltalesouls.com/blog/?p=2056#comment-3376 Thank you, Pamela! I can't wait until <em>TellTale Souls Writing The Mother Memoir</em> is out there providing a path for folks to "Keep Spirits Alive" by capturing their mothers' innermost beings in true stories. It's been a long time coming... Thank you, Pamela! I can’t wait until TellTale Souls Writing The Mother Memoir is out there providing a path for folks to “Keep Spirits Alive” by capturing their mothers’ innermost beings in true stories. It’s been a long time coming…

]]> Comment on ON WRITING—INSPIRATION, INTENTION, FRUITION by Pamela http://telltalesouls.com/blog/on-writing%e2%80%94inspiration-intention-fruition/comment-page-1/#comment-3375 Pamela Fri, 03 Feb 2012 17:51:03 +0000 http://telltalesouls.com/blog/?p=2056#comment-3375 Can't wait to read your book when it's published. This is a huge accomplishment, and a book that many, many will enjoy as it helps them discover themselves, their mothers, and their writing talents. Can’t wait to read your book when it’s published. This is a huge accomplishment, and a book that many, many will enjoy as it helps them discover themselves, their mothers, and their writing talents.

]]> Comment on Extolling the virtues of mom in memoir? Not for everyone. by Kate Farrell http://telltalesouls.com/blog/extolling-the-virtures-of-mom-in-memoir-not-for-everyone/comment-page-1/#comment-3353 Kate Farrell Sun, 08 Jan 2012 21:51:33 +0000 http://telltalesouls.com/blog/?p=2045#comment-3353 Hi Laura, Just have a minute to respond to your thoughtful comments (and they deserve more). I did share a similar repression of anger for most of my life as did my older brother. We could not risk showing anger as abused children. It was not until I was able to express my own true anger that I could begin to finally heal and fully embrace that child self who survived. My older brother still is repressed; my younger brother was abusive and angry, was beginning to heal at age 62 when he suddenly died. I'm wondering right now how to incorporate anger into mother memoir in an appropriate way. Thanks, Laura, for giving voice to that justified anger. BTW, I'm still angry at my mother at some primal level. Thank YOU, Lynn, for supporting this discussion and so many more about mother memoir. Hi Laura,
Just have a minute to respond to your thoughtful comments (and they deserve more). I did share a similar repression of anger for most of my life as did my older brother. We could not risk showing anger as abused children. It was not until I was able to express my own true anger that I could begin to finally heal and fully embrace that child self who survived. My older brother still is repressed; my younger brother was abusive and angry, was beginning to heal at age 62 when he suddenly died.

I’m wondering right now how to incorporate anger into mother memoir in an appropriate way. Thanks, Laura, for giving voice to that justified anger. BTW, I’m still angry at my mother at some primal level.

Thank YOU, Lynn, for supporting this discussion and so many more about mother memoir.

]]> Comment on Extolling the virtues of mom in memoir? Not for everyone. by Laura McHale Holland http://telltalesouls.com/blog/extolling-the-virtures-of-mom-in-memoir-not-for-everyone/comment-page-1/#comment-3352 Laura McHale Holland Sun, 08 Jan 2012 20:53:35 +0000 http://telltalesouls.com/blog/?p=2045#comment-3352 Lynn, It sounds like it was a very good process for Marie. I believe the memoir journey is rarely easy, but it's always worth the effort. Lynn, It sounds like it was a very good process for Marie. I believe the memoir journey is rarely easy, but it’s always worth the effort.

]]> Comment on Extolling the virtues of mom in memoir? Not for everyone. by admin http://telltalesouls.com/blog/extolling-the-virtures-of-mom-in-memoir-not-for-everyone/comment-page-1/#comment-3351 admin Sun, 08 Jan 2012 20:36:46 +0000 http://telltalesouls.com/blog/?p=2045#comment-3351 Laura, Anger is a BIG one that has huge mysterious overtones when writing memoir (or just living life). When we have anger for being treated unjustly, especially by people in our immediate families, and were never allowed to express it, I believe it eats away at the psyche until we find an avenue to let it out. It sounds like, through your work, you are learning to redirect it and beginning to look at things from a new perspective. Thought you might find a connection with Marie, a TellTale Soul, who wrote her Mother Memoir for my collection, through her words, “Telling this story was a good experience for me, and I’ve since done much soul searching and writing, exploring the negative experiences in the relationship between my mother and myself. I now realize that the pain around my relationship with her is gone. What I’m left with today is called health!” Laura,
Anger is a BIG one that has huge mysterious overtones when writing memoir (or just living life). When we have anger for being treated unjustly, especially by people in our immediate families, and were never allowed to express it, I believe it eats away at the psyche until we find an avenue to let it out. It sounds like, through your work, you are learning to redirect it and beginning to look at things from a new perspective.
Thought you might find a connection with Marie, a TellTale Soul, who wrote her Mother Memoir for my collection, through her words, “Telling this story was a good experience for me, and I’ve since done much soul searching and writing, exploring the negative experiences in the relationship between my mother and myself. I now realize that the pain around my relationship with her is gone. What I’m left with today is called health!”

]]> Comment on Extolling the virtues of mom in memoir? Not for everyone. by Laura McHale Holland http://telltalesouls.com/blog/extolling-the-virtures-of-mom-in-memoir-not-for-everyone/comment-page-1/#comment-3350 Laura McHale Holland Sun, 08 Jan 2012 18:23:49 +0000 http://telltalesouls.com/blog/?p=2045#comment-3350 I think for me what I'm grapplng with right now is anger. Except for when I was very small and fought with my sisters (three tiny, biting, kicking, screaming baby girls) anger just hasn't been in my emotional repertoire. My father and stepmother were allowed to express anger, but my sisters and I weren't even supposed to express displeasure. When things have gone wrong in my life, I've blamed myself and felt shame. When people have apologized to me for things they feel they've done that have harmed me I've said things like, "Oh, it's okay," and moved away from the discussion without even considering whether I may have actually deserved an apology. I feel like I never do deserve an apology from anyone for anything. And I know this stems from a combination of how I was raised and my own unique inclinations (my sisters, for example, knew they were angry with our stepmother and let her know it many times as things arose, even though this sort of expression was not permitted. I never once got openly angry with her. I judged her and made fun of her behind her back when I was a teenager, but those are different aspects of the emotional spectrum). Lately, I've been noticing the edges of anger here and there, anger that is not directed at me for a change, and I believe this is healthy, but it's also very new and strange to me. I think for me what I’m grapplng with right now is anger. Except for when I was very small and fought with my sisters (three tiny, biting, kicking, screaming baby girls) anger just hasn’t been in my emotional repertoire. My father and stepmother were allowed to express anger, but my sisters and I weren’t even supposed to express displeasure. When things have gone wrong in my life, I’ve blamed myself and felt shame. When people have apologized to me for things they feel they’ve done that have harmed me I’ve said things like, “Oh, it’s okay,” and moved away from the discussion without even considering whether I may have actually deserved an apology. I feel like I never do deserve an apology from anyone for anything. And I know this stems from a combination of how I was raised and my own unique inclinations (my sisters, for example, knew they were angry with our stepmother and let her know it many times as things arose, even though this sort of expression was not permitted. I never once got openly angry with her. I judged her and made fun of her behind her back when I was a teenager, but those are different aspects of the emotional spectrum). Lately, I’ve been noticing the edges of anger here and there, anger that is not directed at me for a change, and I believe this is healthy, but it’s also very new and strange to me.

]]> Comment on Extolling the virtues of mom in memoir? Not for everyone. by Laura McHale Holland http://telltalesouls.com/blog/extolling-the-virtures-of-mom-in-memoir-not-for-everyone/comment-page-1/#comment-3349 Laura McHale Holland Sun, 08 Jan 2012 06:52:19 +0000 http://telltalesouls.com/blog/?p=2045#comment-3349 The work both you and Kate are doing in this regard is worthwhile. I appreciate both of you for encouraging me to be part of the process. The work both you and Kate are doing in this regard is worthwhile. I appreciate both of you for encouraging me to be part of the process.

]]> Comment on Extolling the virtues of mom in memoir? Not for everyone. by admin http://telltalesouls.com/blog/extolling-the-virtures-of-mom-in-memoir-not-for-everyone/comment-page-1/#comment-3348 admin Sun, 08 Jan 2012 02:29:50 +0000 http://telltalesouls.com/blog/?p=2045#comment-3348 That note of "mystery" you ended with is exactly why we need to continue exploring, writing, sharing, and helping others to do the same... That note of “mystery” you ended with is exactly why we need to continue exploring, writing, sharing, and helping others to do the same…

]]> Comment on Extolling the virtues of mom in memoir? Not for everyone. by admin http://telltalesouls.com/blog/extolling-the-virtures-of-mom-in-memoir-not-for-everyone/comment-page-1/#comment-3347 admin Sun, 08 Jan 2012 02:23:06 +0000 http://telltalesouls.com/blog/?p=2045#comment-3347 Dear Kate, Thanks so much for stopping by and giving us your thoughtful comments on how you gained understanding and freedom through writing Mother Memoir. Your insight into seeing your mother as the "wounded mother" will be helpful to other women who have had similar negative experiences with their mothers. I recommend your anthology, Wisdom Has a Voice -- so many voices with so much to share! Dear Kate,
Thanks so much for stopping by and giving us your thoughtful comments on how you gained understanding and freedom through writing Mother Memoir. Your insight into seeing your mother as the “wounded mother” will be helpful to other women who have had similar negative experiences with their mothers. I recommend your anthology, Wisdom Has a Voice — so many voices with so much to share!

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